In this chapter we will look into some
likely pitfalls. There are some pitfalls that usually occur in homes, which
could easily be avoided. Research into this subject revealed that both spouses’
needs a lot to learn, but invariably many then seek to manage their differences
rather than confront it with an attitude of finding lasting solution to it.
Understanding the institution called
marriage is the first and foremost of the problems one must really have a grasp
of. The dos and dons of either spouse must of necessity be strictly checked and
such findings must be strictly adhere to or else it would amount to waste of
time, and finally unpleasant situation would set in between them.
For example; some spouses would like
other spouse to be himself or herself at all times even while home. What does
he/she likes to do at weekends, festive times, holidays, etc.
Now let’s see some of these pitfalls;
- Mismanagement of Funds
No spouse would take kindly to either spouse’s mismanagement of the
family funds. A godly spouse who knows his/her onus as prescribed by God in the
Bible, will wisely, honestly and judiciously dispenses the family fund and
prevent any extravagant spending that may plunge the entire family into
financial crisis. ‘Proverb 31 vs 10-12’ Who may make discovery of a woman of
virtue? For her price is much higher than jewels. The heart of her husband has
faith in her, and he will have profit in full measure. She does him good and
not evil all the days of her life.
Research also revealed that no matter
the class of the couples concerned, be it the wealthy, average or just the
lowly class would not fancy spouse who are frugal with management of home
resources.
- Divergent
Views
Disagreement between spouses on some issues is
a common occurrence in homes, which is inevitable and if not properly handle
could become problematic, especially when there are conflicts in views,
opinions and interest. God intend for every family to be free from anxiety,
worry and heart ache, which spring from any issues.
3. Shared Love
For this cause shall a man live his
father and mother and be joined to his wife to become one flesh.
When a spouse shows more love or
concern to his/her parents and siblings than his/her immediate family and it’s
so obvious to him/her then obviously the marriage is on the path of ruin. No
one wants his/her love shared.
4. Hygiene
A spouse should have an unending
desire for neatness and hygiene. These two concepts have actually caused
separation in many homes. Men are particularly keen on how the home front is
kept, couple with the manner his spouse composes or comport herself. The word
of God says; Cleanliness is next to God therefore be presentable and be a pride
to your spouse.
5. Gossip.
Matt 12:33 ’Either make
the tree good, and his fruit good; or else make the tree corrupt, and his fruit
corrupt: for the tree is known by [his] fruit’.
Lending your ears to tales or giving
your mouth to gossips must be vigorously guarded against rather than succumb
your thoughts to suspicion. Avoid them. Shun all necessary communion and
communication with those that do, lest you be leavened and infected by them. Do
not strike in with any dividing interests, nor embrace any of those so called
principles or practices which are destructive to peace of marriage. As
unimpressive and unpleasant as gossiping may be, so are its vices, when found
in the life of anyone. Gossip is a canker-worm that has destroys nations, homes,
churches and communities.
6. Anger
Are you an angry spouse? If yes, then
you are on the verge of making him loose interest in coming home frequently and
as early as he would have loved to and while if it is her, she then become
afraid of you, even on non-issue.
The Bible does not mince word pertaining
to an angry woman, in Prov 21vs19. It says; It is better to dwell in the wilderness,
than with a contentious and an angry woman. Unbridled passions embitter and
spoil the comfort of all relations. A peevish angry wife makes her husband's
life uneasy, to whom she should be a comfort and a meet help .Therefore, dear readers avoid anger with
your spouse so as to keep your home.
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