Marital Turbulence

A recently carried out research revealed that 78% marriages initially contracted ends up in separation or divorce. Meanwhile, others that do not end in separation are largely characterized by animosity or ill-feeling against one another. The result showed estimation of 30% couples in marriages goes through one form of marital turbulence or feeling of discontent in their homes and this statistics differ with geographic location.

But inspite of this enormous uncertainty, that is associated with this institution called marriage, statistically many about 95% still wants to marry, while at the same time the divorced ones still goes back to remarry despite the challenges of their first marriage.

Then inorder to understand this marital turbulence, coupled with its implication on the marriage and providing effective method of treatment which has been the major bane of people searching for solution to remedy this menace in homes.

Marital Turbulence And Its Causes

Unhappiness in marriages can vary with reasons; there are some systematic recurring vices that are commonly associated with marital strife.

The most common reported problem is Lack of Communication or poor communication. When a line of communication is not clear to spouses, wrong assumption sets in, thereby causing the spouse to assume that their partners are either requesting or demanding more than they can actually cope with.

An emotional wretch spouse will prefer to keep silence rather than talk about problem in their home, due to inability of the partner to understand, which oftentimes ends up in quarrel or a fight. These problems then result in spouses hating themselves first and then disliking their partners or the union.

Another problem associated with this marital strife is lack of openness; when spouses feel that their partners are too evasive in a conversation or not wanting to share certain thing or information with them.

Another problem is lack of understanding of marital roles; when spouses are oblivious of what their roles are in marriage such that it brings conflicts of interest, as such it will cause disaffection, which resulted into failed expectations that the partners may hold about each other. Eg, Spouses believes that their partners should atleast know their primary roles and responsibility without them voicing their partners what their roles are. An emotional wretch spouse is likely to lay the root cause of the problems at the door of partner’s parent for their inability to instill proper handling of roles in a relationships, such as marriage, friendship etc.

Lack of Intimacy is another much talked about problem that brings disaffection among couples. Intimate relationship is opening up yourself to your partner, sharing your thoughts, vision and feelings, while at the same time allowing yourself to be vulnerable around him/her. These then leads to a stronger bonding between the two. Intimate relationship is hinged on trust, openness and effective communication, but unfortunately human nature and life will throw spanner in the wheel of progress, like having argument which does not really harm, but what really harm is what was said and how it was said.

  Spouses that experience this type of problems are much more susceptible to have psychological problems, which includes anger, depression, distressed, low self esteem, alcoholism, insecurity etc. Unhappy spouses will definitely suffer physical health challenges.