Causes of fatigue in relationship

Little Foxes that causes fatigue in relationship

There are some things in relationship that should be avoided like plague; for it is capable of rubbing your relationship/marriage off the positive energy ‘tranquility’ and throwing out of the window the mutual respect that once exist. These are the most destructive.

1.  Inability or unwillingness to handle differences

Ø  Inability to express sexual feelings

Ø  Issues of money management

Ø  Issues surrounding religious practice

Ø  Concerning parents and in-laws

Ø  Parenting issues bothering on discipline of children

Ø  Handling family traditions, holidays, special occasions

Ø  Household cleanliness

2.   Poor conflict management:

Imagine someone that is coming from an environment that is abusive, chaotic, violent and judgmental in nature, that fellow’s handling of conflict would be quite different from someone that is coming from such an environment where there is peace and harmony.

Ø  When you are unwilling to yield ground or compromise

Ø  When you are busy using withdrawal and avoidance, to get back at you partner

Ø  Having wrong perception or always thinking negative

Ø  Not accepting one another's feelings

Ø  When you allow conflict to go beyond control

Ø  Insinuations and wrong assumptions

3.  Having no time to build the marriage:

Ø  When you are too busy with work, school, children, church callings

Ø  Keeping outside interests separate from your partner

Ø  When there is no clear cut understanding of marital roles

Ø  Engrossed in your own personal routines

4.  Power differential:

Ø  Buying into gender stereotypes

Ø  Misuse of priesthood responsibility to manipulate and control

Ø  Money as a way to manipulate and control

5.   Attacking Character:

Ø  When attacking one another’s character and personality with blame

Ø  Always accusing partner generally rather than being specific with complaints

6.   Contempt

Ø  Intent to insult and abuse your partner psychologically

Ø  Includes name calling, hostile humor, mockery, and body language (e.g., sneering, rolling eyes).

7.   Defensiveness

Ø  Whining

Ø  Denying responsibility

Ø  Cross-complaining

Ø  Yes-butting

Ø  Making excuses

Ø  Desist from Negative body language (e.g. arms folded across chest, hands touch neck)

8.   Stonewalling: - Is stopping a discussion from by refusing to answer questions

Ø  Unnecessary silence during conversation. One partner does not react to the other

Ø  Ignores

Ø  Restricting by cutting short/Changing subject

Ø  Leaves the room

Ø  Responds by sarcastically saying, "whatever", or "you're right" as a way to get the other person off his/her back.

In conclusion for a marriage or any relationship to last longer, it all depend on the partners being able to tap from the abundant wells of positivity as well as having a sense of mutual understanding in their styles of interaction. And with this, the vicious negative energy affecting your marriage or relationship would have been dealt with.